Honestly, I have to learn how to trust people who see me as "other" again. I've been in therapy for three years, and I feel like it's just time to start putting myself out there, again– which involves taking risks. In order not to retraumatize myself or cement the PTSD that I'm working hard to get past, I feel low risk opportunities to show up are right. But I've never done low risk, so I don't even know what that looks like, other than showing up for this group. Advice, anyone. I'm a writer, a school founder, a woman of color, and – to own it – not comfortable with public speaking unless it's about an institution I've already built.
Low risk sounds like a JUST RIGHT plan, truly. I’ve always been a fan of taking bravery breaks and when people misinterpret my work to mean ALWAYS SPEAK, ALWAYS PUSH YOURSELF I’m like no no no — part of decolonizing our mind around public speaking is doing it on our own terms. In your case that means with softness, with people or in spaces that prioritize kindness.
Hi Samara! So timely. And thank you! My hang-up is on feeling like I need to have everything mapped out -like line for line- ahead of time because I struggle with remembering what to say or saying the right thing at the right time (the best stuff always comes after the moment, lol) - but I lose so much of my personality and authenticity when I’m scripted and people just don’t connect. So then I choose to not show up at all. SOS! Please. Xoxox See you on Friday :)
Honestly, I have to learn how to trust people who see me as "other" again. I've been in therapy for three years, and I feel like it's just time to start putting myself out there, again– which involves taking risks. In order not to retraumatize myself or cement the PTSD that I'm working hard to get past, I feel low risk opportunities to show up are right. But I've never done low risk, so I don't even know what that looks like, other than showing up for this group. Advice, anyone. I'm a writer, a school founder, a woman of color, and – to own it – not comfortable with public speaking unless it's about an institution I've already built.
Low risk sounds like a JUST RIGHT plan, truly. I’ve always been a fan of taking bravery breaks and when people misinterpret my work to mean ALWAYS SPEAK, ALWAYS PUSH YOURSELF I’m like no no no — part of decolonizing our mind around public speaking is doing it on our own terms. In your case that means with softness, with people or in spaces that prioritize kindness.
That’s super helpful. Thanks, Samara!
Love you so much!
Thanks so much for the kind shout-out, friend!
Thank you for your post — which was SO MUCH BIGGER THAN THIS and right f’ing on time! (And looking forward to fomenting the revolution with you.)
Hi Samara! So timely. And thank you! My hang-up is on feeling like I need to have everything mapped out -like line for line- ahead of time because I struggle with remembering what to say or saying the right thing at the right time (the best stuff always comes after the moment, lol) - but I lose so much of my personality and authenticity when I’m scripted and people just don’t connect. So then I choose to not show up at all. SOS! Please. Xoxox See you on Friday :)
YES! Absolutely bring this up Friday — scripting is a STEP but it is not THE THING. To be discussed!